You’re Not Lazy—You’re Dysregulated: Understanding Trauma and Chronic Stress

Samantha Stuntz
Jul 23
2 min read

Updated: Aug 4

The Hidden Struggles of Dysregulation

Ever feel like no matter how hard you try, you can’t stay consistent or motivated? You’re not lazy. You’re not broken. You’re likely dysregulated.

When your nervous system stays stuck in survival mode—after years of stress, trauma, or burnout—your brain prioritizes protection, not productivity. This can lead to a range of challenges that may feel overwhelming.

Signs of Dysregulation

Dysregulation can manifest in various ways. Here are some common signs to look out for:

Inability to Rest: You may find it hard to relax, even when you have the time to do so.
Constant Self-Doubt: Feelings of inadequacy can creep in, making you question your abilities.
Emotional Shutdown: You might feel numb or disconnected from your emotions.
Guilt Around Doing “Nothing”: You may feel guilty for taking breaks or not being productive.

The Importance of Regulation

The fix? Not shame. Not hustle. It’s learning how to regulate again. Regulation is essential for your well-being. It allows you to move from a state of survival to one of safety and peace.

Tools for Regulating Your Nervous System

In this week’s live session (July 31st), I’ll teach you how to recognize survival patterns and provide you with tools to gently shift toward safety. Here are some strategies you can start with:

Mindfulness Practices: Engage in mindfulness exercises to help ground yourself in the present moment.
Breathing Techniques: Simple breathing exercises can help calm your nervous system.
Physical Movement: Incorporate gentle movement into your routine to release pent-up energy.
Journaling: Writing down your thoughts and feelings can help you process emotions.

Moving Beyond Survival

You deserve more than survival. You deserve peace. By understanding the signs of dysregulation and implementing these tools, you can begin to reclaim your life.

Conclusion

Recognizing that you are not lazy, but rather dysregulated, is the first step toward healing. Embrace the journey of learning how to regulate your nervous system. Remember, you are not alone in this struggle.

For more insights and support, join us in the upcoming live session. Together, we can navigate the path toward a more balanced and fulfilling life.